Pain Slut

There are a couple of things I’ve been thinking about in the realm of BDSM. More and more I realized I’m becoming less of a casual observer and more of a committed practicitioner. I wanted to devote a post or two to my musings. Feel free to join in. I’ll even add a photo of myself to each one. 

Pain. Slut. 

I’ve been ruminating on this particular phrase for a little bit. Application and implication mostly. 

I love being spanked. I enjoy it from a simply playful spanking all the way up to cane use. It’s hard to explain, but I crave the painful ones. 

The pain is different… Cathartic almost. I know it will hurt, I know I will cry, I know I will feel better. Nothing else matters in those moments because my mind is blank of all except feeling and riding out the pain. 

I’m open to discussing my love of spanking with anyone who asks in a nonjudgmental way. Many people are surprised that I’d enjoy it so rough and most men are hesitant to deliver a severe spanking. The label pain slut gets tossed out, but I’m not sure I consider myself that. 

Is being spanked or desiring to be spanked a masochistic pleasure for me? Have I always liked a bit of pain with my pleasure? Hair pulling, nipple biting, no prep before penetration? 

I see it more as the pain quieting something loud in me. It’s pleasure and release on a different level. It’s satisfaction apart from the sexual. It’s chemical release that loosens me up and makes me calm. 

So maybe I am a little bit of one. My ass is still on fire from an intense, long spanking session and I’m already thinking about the next one. Wishing it was tomorrow, needing the relief/release now. 

That’s not a bad thing though. How we derive pleasure is individual. My need for pain doesn’t control my life. My vice of choice and soo enjoyable. 



19 comments

  1. Oh honey, I think you explained it better than I ever could. Yes, it’s cathartic. Yes, it stills something deep inside. Yes, yes, yes. I crave every type of spanking SSir can throw at me, even the cane (which I’m not a fan of). It resets something in my head, centers me, refocuses me, however you’d like to describe. All I know is that when he’s done and my ass is cherry red and fiery, all the constant noise in my head is quiet. The harder he goes, the longer the quiet lasts. I’m still going strong from a spanking Friday night. 🙂

    And I would *kill* to see you strapped up on the cross in my local dungeon like that. RAWR!

    P.S. Proud pain slut right here. /giggles

      1. I wish I could, too! The only thing I like about the cane are the marks it leaves behind. I don’t even like the pain that much – I prefer deep thuds, and the cane stings too damn much, but I don’t say no to it, either, so maybe I do like it. It’s a love-hate relationship, lol.

  2. Why am I just a little frightened of using a cane ??!! Crop. Fine Training whip fine. Cane …FUCK !!! Seemed just tooooo much , that is until ,,,,, yep I bit the bullet and the sighs from my magnificent little reached another galaxy !!! The smiling eyes that followed melted me !! And so the Craving begins !! What have I opened up ?? Apart from an immensely contented little !!

    Aaaaah

    Your pic is a total inspiration

    Thankyou !!!

    1. I’ve noticed a lot of guys are extremely reluctant to weld a cane. I think because the possibility of injury is so high? Or maybe it’s not being able to really hurt someone. I’m not sure I could cane someone, but taking it is a different story.

      1. I welcome controlled violence. One of those instance where I want to feel the strength of a man. I feel more feminine and delicate. I’m soft after (something I’ll talk about next)

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